Whether you like it or not, a job is where you spend the majority of your waking life. If it’s crappy, the majority of your waking life is crappy, and that’s not okay. Sometimes you need to realise that it’s time to step back – you’re working for your job, but your job isn’t working for you. Here are the signs it’s time to resign. 1. You feel grumpy all the time. Work makes you a bit, you know… ragey? Stabby? Basically, the fury is real and sometimes you’re convinced you’ll never feel true joy again (until you get home, because for some reason being away from your office seems to fix all your problems). Face the facts: you hate your job. And, there’s no reason to be somewhere that makes you feel unhappy. 2. You find reasons to call in sick, come in late or leave early. The minute you can miss, well, a minute of work, you feel like your life has been made. That’s why you go out of your way to schedule things during work hours. The shorter you can make your day, the better – you have pretty much zero loyalty to the company at the moment, tbh. 3. You feel bored as hell half the time. You’ve been at it for what feels like forever, but your job isn’t changing. It’s so routine that you feel completely and utterly stuck. It’s not that you’re not busy – it’s that even when you are busy, the work is boring and unchallenging. 4. You aren’t seeing room for growth. There doesn’t seem to be any way up from where you are now, and you fear that your job is completely stagnant. You don’t want to be in the same role forever, and you’re ambitious in your career. There’s no point staying somewhere that doesn’t give you the opportunity to become better. 5. You don’t get along with your colleagues. A job can be an extremely lonely experience if there isn’t at least one person you get along with really well. Of course, this is the world, and personalities are bound to clash – you’re not going to love everyone, and everyone is not going to love you. But if you genuinely cannot find common ground with anyone in your office, it may be time to resign. 6. Your boss is the actual worst. Like, your boss needs an exorcism. His or her presence leaves you in a total panic, and you’re scared to go to him or her with any concerns. If your boss makes you feel like you’re some sort of idiot and treats you like crap, you need to make a run for it. 7. You’re burnt out. Your job is too much for one person to physically handle. You’re coming in early, staying late and you’re impossibly stressed. You have no time for your own life – you’re living for your boss. No matter how you look at it, it isn’t worth it. If your workload can’t be relieved, move on before you fully crack under the pressure. 8. You feel like a child in preparatory school. You should definitely resign if your every move is being observed and you feel like you need to ask permission to go to the toilet. You’re totally being kept under your company’s thumb, even though you’re a grown woman with a life that doesn’t revolve around your job. 9. The company morale is dangerously low. You and your colleagues are currently in an environment of shared misery. If everyone is unhappy, something in your office is very, very wrong. Even if you feel loyal towards your company, you have to realise when issues aren’t going to be resolved in the short term. You don’t have to stick around – you deserve a more pleasant space.

You don’t need a new year to start working on yourself, but it’s nice to have an excuse. Loving yourself is a long journey and we’re still getting the hang of it. New year’s resolutions are infamous for being something you stick to for the first week then completely forget about, but they don’t have to be. The trick is to make them small and attainable. Here are some you can make if you’re serious about loving and caring for yourself in the new year:


I will make a change to the way I use social media

By now it’s obvious that social media and self-love don’t exactly go hand-in-hand. If anything scrolling through other peoples’ lives can make you feel like your life just isn’t cool enough, exciting enough or Instagram-worthy. There isn’t one resolution that will fit everyone; you need to assess how social media affects you negatively and work from there. This could be deleting the Twitter app, deactivating your Facebook or resolving to not watch anyone’s Instastories anymore. Whatever it is just make a change to your social media usage.

I will learn to love my body

Accepting your body, let alone loving it, is a long process, so start small. Think of your favourite part of your body and celebrate it. Make 2018 the year of letting your tiny boobs shine, or the year of wearing gold eyeliner every day because it makes your eyes pop. Anything that gets you thinking and feeling positive about your appearance. You could focus on a different part every month and by the end of the year you’re going to be feeling your whole self (or at least 12 different parts of yourself, which is still a lot).


I will buy a cute water bottle that I take everywhere with me

Because you’ve made your new year’s resolution to drink more water before and it didn’t stick. Splurge on an adorable water bottle that’s easy to carry everywhere you go and you’ll have a bit of motivation to stay hydrated.

I will buy a sex toy

Seriously, what are you waiting for? Just buy a damn vibrator already. Masturbation is an excellent way to practice self-love and a sex toy is going to take it up to a whole new level.


I will start meditating for 10 minutes a day

Everyone can afford to take ten minutes of their morning for some me time. Especially now that you’ve taken steps towards cutting down on your phone time. Meditation decreases your stress, helps you sleep better, boosts your immune system, makes you more in touch with yourself and so much more. When you reach for your phone first thing in the morning click on a meditation app instead, like Headspace or Stop, Breathe and Think.


I will find a form of exercise I love

This is the year you stop associating exercise with discomfort and negative thoughts. Take a few minutes to brain storm what kind of exercise would make you happy. If you’re sociable you can sign up for a soccer team in your area (and the beginning of the year is the perfect time to join clubs). If you love nature find a running partner and make a pact to have an outdoor run twice a week together. If you used to love swimming in school but haven’t in years because who could possibly afford to live somewhere with a pool look around for gyms that have pools. Find something that is going to bring you joy because you’ll be more inclined to stick with it.

I will practice gratitude

Get into the habit of saying what you are thankful for in life and you will feel more positive and grateful in general. Write just one sentence in a diary every morning, or say it out loud to yourself as you look in the mirror. You might feel silly but it’s impossible to not feel at least a little bit more positive afterwards.


I will stay in more

Going out and socialising is important but it’s also important to take time for yourself. Commit to spending at least two weekend nights a month alone at home. Not only will you save money but also precious time that you can now use to do one of the things you resolved to do, like writing in your gratitude journal or masturbating.


I will not weigh myself this year

When does weighing yourself ever really bring you joy? If you want to improve your body that’s fine but focus on building strength or increasing your stamina rather than losing weight. Walk right past the scales at your gym or literally throw your scales away; you will not miss them.

I will make Sundays for nature

Instead of making a vague resolution about wanting to spend more time in nature get specific. Set aside Sundays for the day you do something outdoors. Make a WhatsApp group for your friends and each week someone different can suggest a nature adventure for you guys to do. Or just take yourself to the park. As long as you’re getting in some fresh air.


I will practice eating mindfully

New year’s resolutions about food are always tricky. This year be more mindful of what and how you eat. People usually go too hard, making extreme changes to their diet that they can’t sustain. Rather promise yourself to take small steps where you can; cutting down instead of cutting out completely. Next separate screen-time from food-time. When you watch something while eating you aren’t being mindful. This leads to you eating too fast, too much and thoughtlessly, making you more likely to make unhealthy choices.


I will book those appointments

You know the ones. Go to the gynae. Go get that mole checked out. Go find out why that tooth always hurts when you eat ice cream. Go to therapy FFS. Just go.